1. I wanted to pay off all our bills. This does not include mortgages and car loans. I wanted to pay off the line of credit and our credit cards. It would have been nice to just pay for our car license and not have to worry about a monthly payment.
2. I wanted to save up for a family trip. And a couples trip.
Paying off bills was not one of his priorities. He didn't care. When buying stuff (TV, appliances, quad, vehicles, etc) he always had to have the best. If you're going to spend money, why not buy the best so it lasts longer?
Now, though, the girl he is with, she really is all about the money. My kids are wearing brand name clothes that I would never have bought them. J, the oldest, is wearing Silver jeans, while I am getting by with jeans that are two years old because I can't afford to buy new ones. The Ex went to Edmonton a couple of weekends ago and bought J two pairs of Silver jeans and two brand name shirts. He bought R a Bench sweater and LuLu Lemon yoga pants. Really?
I have to budget and save to buy my kids socks and underwear, for fuck's sake.
So, you know what? I am worried about and talk about money a lot. I have to. I am living on a very tight budget. I am trying to pay off a visa bill (party of which The Ex helped max out) and I am trying to pay off a line of credit (again, which he helped max out). I don't like being in debt. I am leaving in a house that is probably too expensive for me and it pisses me off. If The Ex hadn't convinced me to sell my little house and live in a new house with him and that everything would be fantastic, I would have half the mortgage I have now and no debt.
The final thing that makes me know that I wasn't a money-hungry bitch? Ani doesn't care about new things and doesn't live above his means. And it is fantastic. I like not worrying about driving the best car and wearing the most expensive clothes and having the best "toys". I like that it is not even a worry for him. Oh, he worries about having enough money, but for the same reasons as me: feed and clothe our kids, put a roof over their heads. Have a little extra to have some fun.
So this is what I want: I don't have to be rich, with scads of money to blow. I want to be able to pay off my debt and have enough money in the month to buy food, be able to have some fun, and be able to take my kids on a holiday.
Is that too much to ask?